fbov Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 I don't know about you all, but I have a problem when an OP feels they need to withdraw all their posts from their own thread for any reason especially if they haven't posted since. Did we lose Laurel? She seemed like a nice lady... I trust someone in authority will take a look at the sequence of preceeding events. Remember, there are faster ways to destroy a social web site than bashing the topic product... Ford isn't Job 1 here, people are. Have fun,Frank JAZ, Edsel, ptjones and 3 others 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adair Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 Can I *like* this more than once? I'm glad someone noticed. Yes, Laurel is taking a break from the forum. Her voice and her insight will be missed. We hope she returns. ptjones 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adair Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 And I agree with you 100% Frank. I don't want to see us head down a slippery slope to meanness and snarkyness. I've been on this forum since mid-December and I can count of the fingers of 1 hand (with a few fingers left over) the number of times I've been angered by a post...........until recently. Certainly, groups grow, change, and evolve as members come and go.....we have a split between early adopters and newer owners, each with different needs and questions. But change should not come at the loss of civility. I hope we (collectively we---as a group) can turn this back around to the positive site we all felt at home in. ptjones and hybridbear 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fbov Posted October 16, 2013 Author Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 (edited) Laurel will be missed, and I think you hit the nail on the head - civility. A wise man once told me "Courtesy costs nothing, but it pays dividends." That wise man was a boy from North Ireland... teachers can appear anywhere! HAve fun,Frank, who will be happy if his first thread start fades into the past... Edited October 16, 2013 by fbov Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RachelnLa Posted October 17, 2013 Report Share Posted October 17, 2013 What?? Noooo Laurel! Please visit again! You will be missed. You were my first friend on the board Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mtb9153 Posted October 18, 2013 Report Share Posted October 18, 2013 I do hope she can forgive the sequence of events and return to the forum. I don't know why things like this happen? A simple comment(s) pointed wrongly can be as bad as a slap in the face. Please come back Laurel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HannahWCU Posted October 19, 2013 Report Share Posted October 19, 2013 (edited) Yes, I agree. Everyone needs to remember to be civil. If someone does something or says something in a way you don't agree with, let it drop. There is no reason to get personal. I know I try really hard not to argue. Discussions are one thing arguments are something totally different. Let keep that in mind. Edited October 19, 2013 by HannahWCU Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArizonaEnergi Posted October 19, 2013 Report Share Posted October 19, 2013 On a closely moderated forum I am a member of, when someone posts something inappropriate or in violation of forum policies the moderator removes the words or sentence and replaces it with [xxx comment removed by moderator jones], with "xxx" replaced by the term that describes the reason, e.g. "political","obscenity","personal attack", etc.. This method is similar to painting over graffiti rather than letting it remain and hoping a "No Graffiti Allowed" sign will work. It's unfortunate that a prolific poster would feel the need to leave the forum due to a personal attack, and I hope she comes back soon. ptjones, hybridbear and Adair 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LizM Posted October 20, 2013 Report Share Posted October 20, 2013 Ok, I think I missed something...Hope Laurel comes back... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RachelnLa Posted October 20, 2013 Report Share Posted October 20, 2013 I missed it too Liz but I gather Laurel left Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michigan Max Posted October 20, 2013 Report Share Posted October 20, 2013 Ok, I think I missed something..Me too. I assume there were some posts removed from that thread because I see no offensive posts or any reason for her to remove all her posts. All of the responses there seem fine to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArizonaEnergi Posted October 20, 2013 Report Share Posted October 20, 2013 The entire first page of the discussion with her several posts and the one that caused the problem has been deleted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMax-Traveler Posted October 21, 2013 Report Share Posted October 21, 2013 This is very unfortunate... I hate to see this kind of thing happen. But I have to agree, a couple of things happened here over the past several days that have made me feel not especially welcome here or interested in continuing to be active on this forum either. I hope it can be resolved to everyone's satisfaction soon, because I think this should be a great forum for owners of a great car. hybridbear 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adair Posted October 21, 2013 Report Share Posted October 21, 2013 This is very unfortunate... I hate to see this kind of thing happen. But I have to agree, a couple of things happened here over the past several days that have made me feel not especially welcome here or interested in continuing to be active on this forum either. I hope it can be resolved to everyone's satisfaction soon, because I think this should be a great forum for owners of a great car.CMax-Traveler, I'm sorry that something has happened to make you feel unwelcome. This forum was created to benefit *ALL* C-MAX owners. We have all been *first-time hybrid drivers* at one point. It should be the intention of the forum for the more seasoned driver to share what they have learned with the new owners......and there will be more and more of those.....and to continue to learn from each other.......in a non-judgemental environment. I hope you will reconsider and stay active on the forum. Everyone's input is valued. LizM and hybridbear 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMax-Traveler Posted October 21, 2013 Report Share Posted October 21, 2013 CMax-Traveler, I'm sorry that something has happened to make you feel unwelcome. This forum was created to benefit *ALL* C-MAX owners. We have all been *first-time hybrid drivers* at one point. It should be the intention of the forum for the more seasoned driver to share what they have learned with the new owners......and there will be more and more of those.....and to continue to learn from each other.......in a non-judgemental environment. I hope you will reconsider and stay active on the forum. Everyone's input is valued. Adair, Yeah, thanks... I'm still planning on trying to stick around. The C-Max is actually my second hybrid, and I'm doing some pretty amazing things with this car... much of which is thanks to what I've learned on this forum from :worship: Jus, Matt, ptjones, and others. I'm at the point where I get disappointed at any sub-50mpg trip. :happy feet: It's fun to share successes and great to help new owners learn about their new cars. But... when you have a legitimate question / problem, and there's someone who :airquote: knows everything and you know nothing and they're not even willing to listen to an alternative point of view, it saps your motivation to post, because you run the risk of being given a half-answer and being told (directly or indirectly) how dumb you are for even needing to ask in the first place. No thanks. :banghead: I'm only posting this because I really did enjoy my first several months around here, most everyone here is awesome, and you guys have done a great job of building this forum. But I don't want the whole atmosphere here to be spoiled by a few (or by one). hybridbear 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HannahWCU Posted October 21, 2013 Report Share Posted October 21, 2013 (edited) I have to agree with CMAX - Traveler on this. Lately, I think twice before starting a thread or giving my opinion for this very reason. However, I have been drawn into arguments online before so I am especially careful with what I post. I try my best to never make it personal. Edited October 21, 2013 by HannahWCU hybridbear 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adair Posted October 21, 2013 Report Share Posted October 21, 2013 I agree. No one should be embarassed, or intimidated about asking a question. I know I asked some pretty lame one (in retrospect) when I first found this forum in late 2012. But it was only by asking that I learned. And everyone was so kind, helpful, and supportive that it encouraged me to stay around and learn even more. I'm glad you are going to stick around. With open conversations about this issue, hopefully it will be resolved soon and we can continue to grow as a high-energy, information-rich forum to be proud to welcome :noobie: s to. hybridbear and LizM 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wab Posted October 21, 2013 Report Share Posted October 21, 2013 I've been an active member of several forums, this is the 3rd that has had a problem with a member.One of my RV and 1 motorcycle forum have had a couple of members get in arguments but they never lasted very long.BUTA few yrs ago on a Nissan 300ZX forum a sponsoring member (his business was selling 300ZX performance parts).Was banned because most of his replies were one or 2 words."search" ... Because new members keep asking the same question. and"Wheel Police" the wheels on the 80's ZX are directional. It's much happier :) and fun to keep the links handy, greet the new member and point them in the right direction.After SEVERAL warnings he became belligerent... he and his Co. were banned for life!Ouch that had to hurt!A couple of yr's ago on the Edge MKX forum a member started bashing and threatening a vendor, he was banned, signed up under a new name... was banned again.The 3rd time seemed to convince him, but he didn't have much to contribute after that. On that same forum a moderator seemed to be very abrupt and abrasive. I sent him a PM explain the problem and demonstrated how to use "Smiley"The answer is here.orThe answer is here. ;) HannahWCU and hybridbear 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roninsd Posted October 22, 2013 Report Share Posted October 22, 2013 I'm sorry to hear that Laurel (our first Canadian Cmaxer on the site, I believe) has taken a hiatus. I haven't been able to be on the site as much as before, so I missed whatever incident occurred. This site, from its inception, has been a friendly, open and very helpful Cmax oasis. For the most part, members have tried to help point the way to new owners, even if their questions have been asked 100 times. (nothing new under the sun, etc). I think most of us love sharing our positive experiences of our cars, as well as commiserating over the negative. I'd like to welcome anyone who doesn't feel that way to leave. There are enough forums out there where flaming is welcomed. As one of the original members, I don't want this to become one of them, and I think most of you feel the same way. wab, LizM and Adair 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wab Posted October 29, 2013 Report Share Posted October 29, 2013 :redcard: Click on your user ID Click on Manage Ignore Prefs Under "Add a new user to my list" type the offending user's ID Click Posts beside "Ignore: Posts Signature Messages Click "Save Changes" :sing_rain: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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